Yo.. never cease to admire the slippery slope that some Indian parents find themselves in.. when they handle American born kids. At the heart of the problem.. a couple of misunderstandings, one each on the kids and parents part.
But, i am tempted to ignore the kids's misdoings only because they are young. I am more intrigued by the parents's misguided views, that baffles kids (and quasis alike).
Bottom line, parents have to not only acknowledge but understand that kids born here are more American than Indian. This fact needs to be understood, its plain and simple. I simply dont understand the whining parents go "look at my kid.. does not follow indian culture, is not patriotic about India.. blah blah"... It is perfectly right to be annoyed if kids brought up in India are like that, but kids brought up in America??.. Thats a dandy.. they dont have American passports for nothing, US is their country and West-Life is their culture.
I am not saying, we should let them run loose and be a nutjob smoking weed out of a hose, but at the same time we cannot and should not expect them to feel too intrigued by APJ Kalam (as much as we love and respect him).
Its a fine line, we cannot force Indian culture on them (that itself is a turn off for an American Kid), we should make them glean and inculcate the good of ours with the best of America's. Sometimes recognising the fact can be the difference between a great home atmosphere and ranchy one, particularly in the "metling pot" that foreign Desis find themselves in.
Recognise.. Realise.. Live.. Let Live..
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nice post vinodh..
well lemme psot a counter question to u!
u are now in US .. tmrw if u get married and have kids born in US.. how effectively do u think u can manage this problem!
i haet to call this a problem... its jus a meter of imposing wat we are on the children..every genartion had smething to complain abt the previosu genartion.. that becomes the X factor of that generation.. !
mayb what u have writen here is jjust the X factor of the next generation.
nice blog
nice read
@push
thanks push.. as u say it is not a problem.. and i will not force them to be Indians (i have a more idealistic approach.. i dont think i shud force my view even on my kid.. ithink a parent shud be more a counselor and guide than an enforcer and gatekeeper) ..
but i will teach the good things abt being an Indian.. what positives my religion n country taught me.. and what negatives i had to go thru..
the important thing in family emptions n relations is realising a fundamental fact.. just because u live in the same house and have the same blood group u are NOT required to have same ideas and thoughts..
i think giving space and appreciating the differences is a happy home.
@ Sophia
thx for ur comments.. much appreciated..
vgood 1 da..but thing made sure from the blog and the comments, u no longer want to return home..let me show this to ur patti..
@vijay
not sure abt that one.. regardles i feel we have to give these kids some space
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